1. When you're with your family, you notice that no one really speaks openly with one another.
  2. Your family seems to enjoy putting each other down. Snide or sarcastic comments are common.
  3. Growing up, there was excessive physical abuse or discipline.
  4. Your family is prone to alcohol and / or drug problems.
  5. People in your family tend to be religious or political nuts. They have extreme beliefs.
  6. Growing up, the kids in your family acted like parents... and the parents acted like kids.
  7. People in your family have problems with compulsive gambling and / or spending.
  8. Your family members are emotionally abusive.
  9. Family discussions don't go well. You dread them - and may even avoid them.
  10. As an adult you feel overly sensitive, and it's hard for you to accept criticism.